Well, this Planner's wedding definitely wasn't what I had expected! If you would have asked me 4 years ago what I thought it would be like I would have said huge, planned out to a 'T' and every little detail flows together seamlessly. Just as you would expect a wedding planners wedding to be! I thought we would spend 1+ years planning everything down to the smallest of details but to my surprise we did absolutely nothing. I planned not a single aspect of the entire wedding!
We got engaged and began attempting to plan a little get-together somewhere simple a courthouse or something similar. but if you have read my previous post you know that my Mother-in-law took it into her hands and threw together a beautiful ceremony in a week! ONE WEEK!
It was amazing, everything took place in our families back yard. They have a gorgeous piece of land and a lake with a little dock. She decorated with baby's-breath, hand made decorations and put some chairs on the dock, It was just big enough for everyone to gather and us to hold the ceremony.
After the ceremony we all went up to the house and had bbq, buffet style on the porch. It was simple and elegant yet rustic and cozy. It was everything we knew we wanted on a much more realistic scale for our budget and time frame!
Allowing someone else to take care of the details was something I never thought I could do. Although it really proved to me how important getting a planner can be. We got to sit back and be excited instead of the typical stressed out/panic! She did every little detail from decorating to invites to day of coordinating! Rather than running around trying to make sure everyone knows where to be and what to do, we just enjoyed every moment of the day.
Even though the wedding wasn't what I thought it would be, it was perfect for us! The cherry on top was the learning experience it gave me. I realized how valuable getting a planner really is!! I now direct my focus on not only planning the wedding (obviously) but making sure the little hiccups are smoothed out before hand! and any unavoidable inconvenience that occurs during the wedding, is gone unnoticed by the couple to be sure to keep them as relaxed as possible so they can sit back and enjoy the day!!
When we were 18, my boyfriend at the time, Lake moved away. This was one of the most surreal feelings. I know you're thinking,'you were 18, get over it' but he was my best friend for 5 years, I never really thought about what being without him would be like. We spent everyday together and then he was just gone and I had no control..
What I thought would be the end of the world in that moment, turned out to be an incredible and what seemed impossible experience, We spent almost 4 years flying or driving back and forth to see each other for a couple weeks at a time. Leaving a lot of time spent apart. During this time I worked almost constantly trying to keep myself busy. He attended school full time which meant our off time to talk was almost always the middle of the night.
We had gotten to a point where we felt stuck, things were how they were and we couldn't do anything about it. We were both miserable just trudging along one day at a time doing the same thing over and over.
During one of my visits to him we were wallowing in our self pity and talking about how we just wanted to start our lives. Then the topic of getting married came up,
We both knew that one day we were going to get married so we decided to just go for it! A few days later we ordered our rings and a couple weeks after that we were saying our vows. and as funny as it is, I didn't plan any part of it! My Mother-in-law did everything. It was perfect, everything we wanted, without us even saying a word to her!
It definitely made me realize how truly amazing of a job I have! Getting someone else figure out all of the details and put everything into action saved us so much stress and we were able to focus on the excitement! When the day came she made sure everything was in order and made sure everyone knew what they were doing, all we had to do was sit back and enjoy our special day!
I know being a wedding planner it is a little ironic how unconventional our whole situation was but it was perfect. All we cared about was being brought together and starting our lives!
Regardless of how much we wanted to be with one another, being apart was indeed good for us, we grew to be more independent and gained more appreciation for our time spent together.
In a way, being apart had actually brought us closer together. Looking back I now realize what seems like the end of the world at the time, may lead you to exactly where you want to be.
I want to send out a HUGE thank you to my amazing Mom-in-law who never fails to make me feel like family! We can never thank you enough for all you do for us!
Where did this all begin ? Fresh out of high school I was super confused and had no idea what I wanted to do. I enrolled in an esthetics course and was ready to go but right before it started I decided that it wasn't what I wanted for my future.
As I am frantically researching and taking tons of those "what should I be" tests my boyfriend at the time was coming up with his own ideas for me.
He sends me his list, and at the top was a Wedding Planner. I thought pfft, I can't do that, are you crazy?! I've only ever been to a few weddings and I remember just one of them!
As a couple days passed I thought more and more about the idea, I mean he had a good point. I've always been beyond organized and I live to plan things out. It began to seem more realistic.
A few weeks later my boyfriend found a wedding planners certification class that was coming to a city close to where I lived. It took me a few days to commit and sign up but I am so happy I did! I learned so much about weddings in other cultures, where traditions began and so many awesome techniques and styles. As I was sitting there listening to this woman who was so passionate about planning, I realized how excited I was to get out in the world and start my own planning business!
But where would I begin? I had no idea how to find people looking for a Wedding planner. I came from a very small town where a Party/Wedding planner was not a common thing to search for.
So I went to my Facebook and offered up free services to the first few people who contacted me. I went great, I had so much interest! I realized that a Planner may be something people in my town wanted but had the misconception that it is generally not worth the extra money.
That meant I had to prove to everyone that it was absolutely worth the extra little bit to have a planner. Otherwise I would never make it.
That pushed me so much harder to make every event amazing. I gave everything I had to the amazing people worked with!
I am so grateful that I am finally able to make a go of it doing something that I love with such wonderful people.
It took a bit longer to figure out but I am so fortunate that I had someone push me to where I needed to get to, and is still pushing me today!